They bleed ugali and don't know what tears are.

At least, that's how they carry themselves.

The truth is, Kenyan men are quite simply- human. And while crying gets a bad reputation among them, it's only left for specific occasions like the birth of a child, the death of a parent and the wedding day. Or hypocritical politicians.

Beyond that, men hate appearing emotional.

Here are 4 reasons that could explain why.

1. Fear of rejection

Most Kenyan boys grow up knowing that only women cry. Which is stupid because tear ducts aren't like mammary glands- they don't only occur in the female of the species. However, while men have been conditioned never to cry, women have been conditioned not to be there for men. They mock men who show any signs of emotion as though only women have monopoly on expressing pain.

2. Self-preservation

Everyone always looks out for themselves. They live their lives in such a way that they ensure that they could never get hurt. Opening yourself up seems like a sure fire way to get somebody to hurt you. So most Kenyan men will see it as something to be avoided rather than trust than the woman who loves them will make sure that they treasure that trust.

3. Societal pressure

As mentioned earlier, most Kenyan men were raised to believe that big boys don't cry. There is a common pressure mounted on men to be the bearer of every struggle. They are to be stoic, and strong. They should drink away their problems and when it's too much only mention it to the boys in passing during the Friday Night Pint.

4. Fear of vulnerability

Most men have the irrational fear that once they open up, they open even more doorways to allow them to get hurt. It's hard for them to fathom allowing someone to see their fears, know their worst experiences, relive their nightmares to allow their partners to understand them inside out. But for Kenyan men, it's just easier to remain silent and never have to risk any "weakness".